Many people fear nothing more terrible than to take a position which stands out sharply and clearly from the prevailing opinion. The tendency of most is to adopt a view that is so ambiguous that it will include everything and so popular that it will include everybody -- Rev Martin Luther King, Jr.
Sunday, June 20, 2010
The Loaded Question. Do You Find Me Attractive?
I hate it when someone asks a question but they really are not looking for an answer to that question. Some call it a loaded question, or a lead in question.
I was with a woman the other day and she hit me with a question. She asked me if I ever thought of her in a sexual way?
Now, I've asked others what they thought of the question and their answers were pretty much the same. I wonder what readers of this blog are thinking. See, we were friends because of mutual interests and we are both single. I'd never hit on her and she had never given me any indication that she wanted to move to a higher playing field. So I thought nothing of the question. I thought see was trying to find out if I was in her company only to get in her pants. I told her she was a very atractive woman and didn't ask her why she asked.
Boy oh boy, most men looked at the question as a call home. They said I was stupid and blinded, if I didn't hear the words in that question. They said it was obvious what she really was saying/asking. Was it a loaded question? Did I not hear the door open or was I not listening for the door to open? You make the call. Do we only hear what we want to hear or do we sometimes miss what we should hear. Now, all money is not good money and everything good to you ain't good for you. How do you handle loaded questions, if you perceive then to be one? I like some games and I used to drink (don't drink anymore). I drank my cognac straight up.
I mean, why don't people say what's on there minds?