Saturday, February 11, 2012

OH NO WHITNEY SAY IT AIN'T SO... But I'll Tell You Why It's Probably True.

ADDENDUM!    7 months after this post Whitney is found dead. RIP Ms. Houston.

When Bobby Brown (yes, that Bobby Brown) says you have a serious problem... well, I think everyone should listen. He's not E.F. Hutton, but let me tell you what I know.

A report just came out today with the following headline. Study: Alcohol more lethal than heroin, cocaine

What do you think? Well, that's no surprise to me. I've been saying that for years, but few have been listening.

But if you don't believe me, take a look at this:

LONDON (AP) — Alcohol is more dangerous than illegal drugs like heroin
and crack cocaine, according to a new study.

British experts evaluated substances including alcohol, cocaine,
heroin, ecstasy and marijuana, ranking them based on how destructive they are to
the individual who takes them and to society as a whole.

Researchers analyzed how addictive a drug is and how it harms the human
body, in addition to other criteria like environmental damage caused by the
drug, its role in breaking up families and its economic costs, such as health
care, social services, and prison.

Heroin, crack cocaine and methamphetamine, alcohol or crystal meth, were the
most lethal to individuals. When considering their wider social effects,
alcohol, heroin and crack cocaine were the deadliest. But overall, alcohol
outranked all other substances, followed by heroin and crack cocaine. Marijuana,
ecstasy and LSD scored far lower.
The study was paid for by Britain's Centre for Crime and Justice
Studies and was published online Monday in the medical journal, Lancet.

Experts said alcohol scored so high because it is so widely used and
has devastating consequences not only for drinkers but for those around them.

When drunk in excess, alcohol damages nearly ALL organ systems. It is
also connected to higher death rates and is involved in a greater percentage of
crime than most other drugs, including heroin.

"What governments decide is illegal is not always based on science,"
said van den Brink, a professor of psychiatry and addiction at the University of
Amsterdam. . He said considerations about revenue and taxation, like those
garnered from the alcohol and tobacco industries, may influence decisions about
which substances to regulate or outlaw. "Drugs that are legal cause at least as
much damage, if not more, than drugs that are illicit," he said.

So, how does Whitney Houston fit the mix?

Well, I could use a few treatment words like, Denial, Withdrawal, and Acceptance, but I'd probably be preaching to the choir because nobody would be listening. So I've solicited a few friends of mine to assist me in this journey.

BigMacInPittsburg wrote the following post: When Does Your Life Become Important?

Is it when we become seriously ill with some disease that John Hopkins can't cure?

Is it when a love one or family member we adored has passed this life?
I find myself at 58 years old still smoking cigarettes,I know intellecually that they bring no good to my life.
I could blame the manufactures of cigarettes for my situation and in a big way they are for the lies they have told me and the millions of people that are hooked on cigarettes.
But at this point in my life I KNOW that in order for me to rid my self of this addiction I'll NEED the courage to put on my big boy pants and face the music of withdrawal.

And get this, Big Mac was once a drug counselor, but I'll get back to that.

Now another friend, he's from The Big Apple. Lin, aka moan, wrote the following: Aging, Like Life, Is Kinda Insidious, But It Beats The HELL Outta The Alternative.

"It happened yesterday. I didn’t start out being or
feeling any differently, but then… LIFE happened. While walking from Grand
Central Station about 11 blocks into midtown, I felt this severe CRAMP in my
left calf. It seized upon the muscle with such an intense vise-GRIP that I
literally HAD to STOP, and stop immediately! I've always hated it when getting
my-serious-tunnelvision-NYC-destination-stride on, then suddenly some fool just
STOPS short in front of me and messes up my rhythm! Never was a fan of those
blatant rhythm blockers! Now, I was becoming ONE of those annoying

Yes, father time was creeping up on Moan. After walking a few more blocks, stopping along the way, he jumped (gingerly) upon a train. Then he said, "So, I determined that I was the oldest person in that entire car of more than 60-75 people. That's a very sobering reality"

Well Well Well, remember when Moan said aging is insidious? And, did you know that insidious means "characterized by treachery or slyness; crafty" And, "more dangerous than seems evident"? Well, it does, and the truth does not lie. I am reminded of a song by the Whispers, "Just Gets Better With Time"

Well, the truth is, some things get worse over time, and if a person continues to do the same things, they will get the same results. And alcohol and crack addiction is insidious. They are both sly and treacherous beyond belief. One hit on a crack pipe and the brain never forgets that feeling. And unfortunately, it's the best feeling a person could ever experience. That's the start of the addiction process. It has nothing to do with the body needing it. The mind will always want more. Or at least, it desires to reach that feeling one more time. The feeling is better than an orgasms.

Speaking of the truth, it's time to bring Whitney back to this party. I am inviting Dr Van Den Brink, the professor of psychiatry and addictions, Moan, BigMacInPittsburg and Whitney Houston. Where do I begin?

I think INSIDIOUS is the man of the hour and ignorance is close behind. Any type of addiction is more of a formidable foe than the average genius can imagine. Some are slower roads to hell, very deceiving, but they all kill. For the most part, it has nothing to do with a person's level of education, nor their financial status. Do you remember when Big Mac said he knew "intellectually" they bring no good to his life? Yelp, it takes no prisoners. Who would have thought that alcohol was more life threatening than Heroin? Okay, maybe some would, but I'd bet my last dime that opinion would be in the very small minority... minuscule, to say the least. Nevertheless, if King Alcohol is the biggest elephant in the house and there's a hundred times more alcohol abusers than all the other drugs combined, WTH is really going on?

Well, in steps Whitney Houston, ignorance and denial, and Big Mac's question... "Is it when we become seriously ill with some disease that John Hopkins can't cure or is it when a love one or family member we adored has passed this life?"
I'd say yes sir! There's no doubt about it.

Now tell me, why should Whitney Houston stop using drugs? Really, answer that question. I am suggesting what many have a hard time understanding.  Is her back against the wall? Is she in jeopardy of losing her job, which would immediately send her to the cheese line? NOPE NOPE AND NOPE. So why should she change? Ponder that for a while. I am suggestiing that a person has to be convinced that their next drink, toke, smoke, toot or poot, will take their life (instantly) or they will convince themselves there's a better day to stop. There's always tomorrow and a better day, but tomorrow seldom comes. Well, not the tomorrow they're thinking of.

But if she ever decides to try again, where does she go for help? No, really, specifically, where does she go and who does she ask for help?  Please, do not say a local treatment center. What are they going to tell her? What... that she has a problem and she's killing herself? If I am not completely stupid, I think she already knows that.

AND-AND-AND.... treatment is a joke! Really, if you've never been in rehab, and thus, know little or nothing about it, I am here to tell you that's it's a dismal failure. It's as much of a pimp game as any quick fix diet plan or the ridiculous words that fall from the mouths of prosperity preachers.

That's right, just like the poor souls that drags their tired bones to the shiny feet of the pulpit pimps - seeking help in the most desperate way - so goes the addicted individual. They're frequently on their last leg... so the sanctioned usurpers move in for the kill.

But everybody is doing it Carey, so it must be right - right?

Well, personally, I don't know anybody that became a millionaire by buying a velvet prayer cloth. And, I know hundreds and hundreds of people who have gone to rehab and they didn't stop drinking or doing drug, but they did received a huge medical bill. Many are dead and gone. Listen, if you put ALL your eggs - or those of a loved one - in a treatment center's basket, you're on a fool's errand.  Listen, alcohol has no medical use what so ever. It's main goal is to disturb the mind.  Some call it getting fu*ked up and having fun. Drugs are made to make a person feel good, and I am here to remind you that they do their job real good. But getting out and/or stop using them is the big bit*h. Nobody knows the troubles I've seen, only a few know my sorrows.  But now, I can look back with a smile on my face and say, "What about a time called now" *smile*

Let me tell you something that you may not know. The overwhelming majority of individuals that find themselves struggling with a habit, never kick that habit. That's a fact! So why are you, your uncle Joe, Billy Bob or Whitney Houston any different? If you really want to know, I'll tell you. Well, if you're still reading, open up your mind and come on. But wait, if you're sitting on the fence (don't think you have a problem) you might want to turn your head.

Once a persons has more than a few problems associated with drinking or drugs, they should know their habit is a progressive monster. Meaning... as age increases, so does the problem. Let me make that perfectly clear. Now this is very scary, even if a person stops drinking or doing drugs, the habit continues. Meaning.... once a person starts again, it's like they've never quit. In fact, they will be worse off than before they stopped. Wow! That's ugly, but true. That's why the medical profession has classified it as a disease. It's spreads like cancer and there is no cure. Have you ever noticed a person that stopped using alcohol and/or drugs, that when they started again, things really really got ugly? Well, that's why, the ball kept rolling even though they were not ingesting their drug of choice. YICKS!

So why don't people just stop forever?

It has everything to do with the pain of withdrawal and mental pain in general, which sometimes can take months, if not years to subside. And ignorance (lack of knowledge... when, why,  and how to escape the problem) is a huge boogie bear. The dreadful misunderstanding of the addiction process might be the biggest hurdle. More importantly, if any one those areas of concern are not sufficiently and thoroughly understood and addressed, any type of sustained recovery is but a distant dream.

Having said all of that, Whitney is in big trouble. Does anybody have any solutions or opinions? What do you think?

Do you think Big Mac likes walking around disgusted with his self? Do you think he loves smelling his hands and breath that reek of stale cigarettes? He said he could buy a nice size car with the money he spends on cigarettes. Do you believe I loved being addicted for several years? Do you think Whitney and DMX want to be addicts? Do you think Moan would have done something different if he knew Father Time was closer than he thought?

What has been your experience, or that of a loved one? How did they handle their habit?

ADDENDUM: THIS JUST IN! Reggie: My parents smoked like industry. My brother and my sister both smoke. My father had cancer so severe that it almost killed him. The doctors cut as much of it out of him as they could and still leave him alive. My mother had lung cancer surgery. She lost a third of her lung; and yet if you went to her home today, it would smell like cigarette smoke because she refuses to quit.I have never smoked.....won't ever smoke. I hate the habit. It's digusting to me and the thought of cigarettes turns my stomach.

MIZ: All my life my entire family father, uncles, aunts, etc...drank, it was common, it was accepted...i don't really know what will bring about a change...cuz i see myself in them as well. Not addicted, but certainly not trying to give it up either.

And this subject is what I do. Take a look at the next small clip. It's me doing my thang.

"Is it when we become seriously ill with some disease that John Hopkins
can't cure?Is it when a love one or family member we adored has passed this
life?I find myself at 58 years old still smoking cigarettes, I know intellecually that they bring no good to my life" ~ BigMacInPittsburg